Dirty Words
My caseworker stared at me. The passing time was awkward. It’s a rare thing for any adult to be looking at me and waiting for an answer. She sat there without emotion except for a meek smile when she first addressed me. I can’t believe I was called to the office for this. My class mates snickered when I was summoned. Already I am angry and don’t want to cooperate.
This is not my first caseworker. A new town, new school, and new caseworker. Same accusations, same story, and the same girl. My last caseworker didn’t help us. This one has three strikes against her. One, she is an adult. Two, she is a stranger. Three, she visited me at school giving my classmates a reason to taunt me.
At first she asked questions that were neutral and things I understand to be ice breakers. “How is school?” “Are you making friends” Always looking at the ground I gave my replies of “fine”, “ok”, “sure”. Then as always they would pause and start asking the bigger questions and making bold statements. Do we have food? Does anyone hit us? Are you touched in ways that are inappropriate? This stranger is asking me to confide such things to her. The 10 year old in me wanted to scream YES to all but the last time I told someone we had no food the caseworker went to my house and told my dad and I paid for that, big time. When my sister told on him for molesting us he took us away from all our friends and we left the state. Are we hit? That’s like asking, do you breathe. And please explain what you think is inappropriate. At 10 I didn’t really understand what sexual abuse was and talking about sex or private parts were still dirty words. Should I call them boobs, breasts, his noodle, my monkey? Does she want details? Just thinking about genitals made me blush for fear someone would know my thoughts. I couldn’t say those words to my class mates or friends much less a teacher, a stranger, an adult.
Of course I denied everything hoping she would just leave me alone. Lying to them made sure I never felt like I could recant because then they would know I’m a liar. That’s a horrible label I didn’t want even though it was the truth. After you make statements, truth or lie, you have to stick with it, right? Finally she stopped prodding and said I could return to class. I turned and looked at her as I was leaving the office and I considered turning back and telling her everything. But then I remembered that she couldn’t help me she can only make things harder for all of us at home, and the door closed.